When Death Comes Suddenly

Reflections on Mother’s Day

May 8, 2023

Mother’s day is a holiday where we show appreciation and care for the maternal roles in our lives. However, this holiday can feel very overwhelming for those of us who are grieving the death of a mother figure, a mother grieving their child, or those of us grieving the loss of not being able to become mothers ourselves.

When Death Feels like a Thief

August 24, 2022

In the heart of my grief, at my frailest, all I could see was what was no more. I grieved all that was stolen from me by death; love, security and even my very self. Had I known the value of having every pocket of who I was, picked bare by grief, I would not have fought so hard to hold onto it all.

Lyss – Support, Family, and Friends

March 23, 2023

Lyss discusses the long process of her mother dying, miscarriages and support from family and friends

Russell – “Need to talk”

December 16, 2018

Russell talks about both mothers and fathers having needs. Russell continues to grieve the perinatal death of his son.

Maureen – “Pregnancy and infant loss”

October 17, 2019

Maureen explains how pregnancy and infant loss is often misunderstood or underestimated.

Maureen – “Grief can come back”

October 17, 2019

Maureen explains however grief comes back, you are OK.

Maureen – “Our first miscarriage”

October 17, 2019

Maureen shares insights about her miscarriages.

Grief, Breastfeeding, and Care

September 30, 2024

In this essay, I share a bit about my story of grief and breastfeeding. I also share some thoughts about the cultural grief some people are carrying about the lack of support afforded to lactating families whose goal it is to feed their baby from their body. I use some gendered language throughout this essay…

Russell – “Be good to yourself”

December 16, 2018

Russell explains that looking after himself gives him the strength to look after others. Russell continues to grieve the perinatal death of his son.

Russell – “Practical things you can do”

December 16, 2018

Russell discusses things that give him comfort. Russell continues to grieve the perinatal death of his son.

Maureen – “My miscarriages and attachment”

October 17, 2019

Maureen tells about her miscarriages, attachment and understanding why she felt so terrible.