Lisa -How grief changes
Lisa talks about being lost after her Dad passed away and two years later how she has come to a place of groundedness
Lisa – How to support someone in grief
Lisa shares what was helpful from other people when she was grieving
Lisa – Music and a safe space
Lisa explains how music has been a safe space for her to feel all of the emotions that have come up since she lost her Dad
Lisa – Music and her connection with her father
Lisa talks about the gratitude she has for reconnecting with her father before he died and how much music was a connection for them
Lisa – Music helped after losing her Dad
Lisa shares how music has helped in her grieveing process.
Lisa – What I do with my music
Lisa discusses what she does with the songs she writes and how they work for her when she needs to tap into a safe space
Madelyn – The power of music
Madelyn – discusses the potency of music and processing good and bad memories
Madelyn – Grieving process as a 2nd generation Canadian
Madelyn talks about being a 2nd generation Canadian, some things she has learend working in palliative care as a music therapist
Post by Maureen Pollard, MSW, RSW
When Grief Therapy Can Help
Death is a natural part of life, and grief is a natural response to the death of a loved one. It makes sense that we might be able to move independently through the experience of grief as we adapt to the reality of life after loss. Sometimes, all we need is the gentle understanding and acceptance of those in our circles as we adjust to the absence of a loved one.
There are times when grief feels overwhelming, and begins to interfere with our ability to function. We can be caught in painful patterns of grief that are beyond the support our family and friends can offer us. Some signs that we might benefit from professional help include:
Suicidal thoughts. If you’re actively thinking about suicide, with a plan to die, please call a crisis line to talk with someone who understands and can give you the non-judgmental support you need when your loved ones are too worried to remain calm as you express your thoughts and feelings to work through them.
On-going, uncontrollable symptoms of distress including crying, insomnia, irritability, panic attacks or depression. These symptoms are all very common in grief, especially in the early days and weeks after a loss. As you adjust to the absence of your loved one, you should find that these symptoms decrease. Counselling can help if they continue, and if they interfere with your ability to work or take part in typical activities such as grocery shopping.
You’re relying on substances like drugs or alcohol to help you avoid your thoughts and feelings. This behaviour can cause additional difficulties with your health and your ability to function in life, and while it’s a common coping mechanism it can quickly escalate with negative consequences.
You don’t have family or friends who are able or willing to support you. It may be that you’re alone in the world after your loved one has died. Alternatively, it may be that the people in your life can’t support you in the ways you need. Maybe they don’t understand, or maybe they are too deep in their own grief.
You blame yourself, or you’re experiencing intrusive thoughts of reliving your loved one’s death. These symptoms of grief are associated with trauma and can benefit from professional support in your recovery.
Remember that while it’s natural to grieve, and grieving takes time, if you find yourself experiencing some of these more difficult situations as you try to cope with the loss of a loved one, there is help available. You can find supportive grief therapy that works for you through a referral by family and friends, your doctor or an internet search for grief therapy in your geographic region. Your grief has a real impact and you’re worthy of good support.
Sara – Creating music
Sara explains how creating music can be a part of the grieving process
Sara – Listening to music
Sara discusses how listening to music can help navigate loss
Sara – Lyrics
Sara talks about how lyrics can have an impact on how we experience music